Lets talk about the man-woman relationship.This being my first and last relationship(even for him, I believe !!) this has been my learning curve.It was always a conundrum to me... Why do we need a man? I can suffice myself..I am independent..Why do I need a man afterall? And why do men need us? To satiate the two hunger they have..food and sex? It is a crazy deal putting a man and a woman together..where she keeps servicing..the man becomes the breadwinner..and the woman cooks..takes care of the children and spends her entire life for the family.I dont think I was ever ready for this...I wanted a man who can go beyond the carnal needs..look for a peer..A partner who does not follow him but walks hand in hand..And luckily that is what I have ended up doing..
I still remember his statement "A superman loses his entire charm if he can impress/entice the entire world..and when he comes home his wife ridicules him of being another fool wearing undergarments outside !!..There he gets transformed from superman to nothing".This is when I could substantiate the real need of a woman in mans life.After some point in relationship its not how attactive the woman is..how appealing she can be on bed..matters..What matters is her comfort..her concern and the support she offers him to be a better man.He needs a pat on the back for excellence both in relationship and the outside world...And there is nothing better than his girl giving him that pat.
Similarly for a woman..that too todays woman..who earns..who can take her decisions...shape her future herself...There is role of a man..She looks for strength..she looks for trust..somebody who can believe her for what she is..somebody who can understand her past..believe in her future and accept her today.No matter where the centuries have taken her..education has given her..Judo/Karate classes have given her..every girl needs a man to say "She is mine"..She likes being possessed(to certain limits)...When she is performing on the world stage...she needs a hand to wave and shout with pride "Thats my girl".Thats the only trick that can make a man get anything out of a girl..any sacrifice..any compromise..they are ready to burn themselves for their man...And I wont shun to say today that I also carry that Diva of being a woman !!
There is still more to it.We have other relationships..male-male friend, female-female friend..male-female friend..brother-sister and many..but what makes this male-female soulmate relationship so unique?? I dont think that anybody has an answer to it.When I am dressed to my best..some 50 people can give ogling stares..20 people can compliment and some 10 can envy..But my day is complete only when my man tells me "You are pretty".I dont know why? Throughout the 24 years of my life I have often heard the same sentence "You are looking cute/pretty/etc etc" But it was an electrifying feeling in the heart when the first time I recieved an SMS from my prospect on my BDay after our date "You can only look either beautiful/smashing".I felt so complete..I ponder about the feeling..But I am glad that there is a girl inside me...And only my man could wake her up..nurture her.I dont know much how he feels about the same..But he gets a magic feeling...to come out of the boring clothes..He has a purpose to be better..look the best...live for someone..Most of the men dont live in an organized way.They like their girl shouting at him..to wake up..to dress properly..to get a haircut..to clean the house..I know for sure that for the past 26 years..his mother would have been behind him in getting him organized..but there is nothing like when his girl does the same.Even men like attention...They do like a girl remembering what he was wearing on the first date..How much his eyes were twinkling when the first time they kissed...In fact they crave more for attention. For If a girl is decently good looking there can be many who ll notice..admire..But its not the same for a guy.He can be dressed in the best branded shirts(Say Tommy !!)...have a musculine body..But hardly will anybody remember how he looked in a stubble 10 days back.Only his girl can say that !!
It is a man need woman and a woman need man world.We are simply incomplete without each other..This of course is the reason..there may be may religions/cultures/beliefs accross the world but only thing that remains common across the boundaries is this man-woman relationship..be it in the form of live-in couples..be it marriage..or dating couple !!
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